Is your kid not learning anything?

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Do you ever have the feeling that you are not making any progress with your child´s education? It´s like you´ve been trying some etiquette rules (could be as simple as saying please and thank you) or make her clean her room, for instance.

Well, let me tell you one thing: there is no such thing as not making any progress with a child.

Do you know why? Because children are always learning and they are always picking up on things, so even if you feel stagnated, they are not.  And we also tend to let simple achievements pass by when in fact they are tremendous on the long run.

Let me give you a practical example. My daughter is 3 years old, I´ve been telling her to go and help herself with water for months (years, I can barely tell), I let the water easily accessible for her. Well, one day she just helped herself and from then on she´s been quite independent in that field.

Now, if you just look at the “helping herself with water” act as a single thing happening in a day full of things, you might not find anything special in it. That´s what many of us parents are doing too often: give little (or no) notice to these “tiny” achievements, when they should all be celebrated, like when our babies are a few months old and we are so proud because they can turn around or sit.

As I realized this tiny achievement and started thinking about other ones, I started to see them quite often from then on.

When we have a baby, we can actually see new things they learn every day, but that kind of ceases after the second year. Well, guess what? It didn´t really cease, it´s you that need to pay more attention to your kid´s actions.

What I am saying is that you might get caught in some specific way of looking at your child. Let me try again: we often start to look more at the annoying side of the learning process and sometimes (more constant then we would like to admit), we hardly even see the fun side.

I guess all parents go through this: being too annoyed to realize the achievements that keep happening every single day. I can talk for myself here. There are many days when I just wish someone would take Luísa away from me because I am too irritated already after we wake up and I get to clean some early mess.

These are moments when it´s impossible for me to stick to the fun side of the educational process. Come on, you must agree with me, what´s fun about trying to be in bed for an extra five minutes at 6 am to then hear something heavy and full of liquid smashing on the kitchen floor?

But, at the same time, even this described situation can built into a good learning lesson if we don´t lose our temper and make them help clean, right? Which I´ve been diligently doing and now I find Luísa grabbing a cloth to dry the floor on her own when she spills something on it. Yey! Lovely to see that (even when I have to go and make the floor actually get dry). That´s a great achievement that could easily be seen as something obvious for a child to do and not celebrated as it deserves.

So, that´s it. This post is for us to look for the mini-achievements that happen daily and celebrate them like big milestones crossed.

What have been the mini-achievements of your child lately? Any little thing counts, use the comment section to praise your little one :)

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This article was originally posted on Tripping Mom by Marilia Di Cesare on September 9, 2010. Republished with authorization. Click here for all other posts.


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