The fear of parenting

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Every day I wonder how I´m messing up Luísa´s life in one way or another. It can be when I get pissed off at her not sitting still while I comb her hair for lice and I grab her by the neck, the way I would never to anyone else, or it can be in many other moments.

One thing I found out, after at least 1,5 year of blogging about it weekly and other years of reading books (like this one)  is that while I´m trying to be better, I do improve.

And the littlest improvement I make, it´s better than not having moved forward one inch.

I don´t suck as a mom.

And if you are reading this, I guess you don´t either.

Making myself change is what makes me improve as a parent. There´s an interview with Dr. Laura of Aha Parenting (where there´s great practical parenting advice),  where she mentions that ¨for the sake of her child she would do anything, including change herself¨, which is very much how I feel too.

I´m talking about letting go of the old style or parenting we were raised and changing into a new paradigm.

Be reassured that the simple fact that you are seeking for this kind of information, to better parent, shows that you will never stop improving yourself.

It´s not the information we read, but our own will to change that makes us change. Looking for it is just a proof that we are doing it.

Parenting insecurity  just shows that we want to grow.


New rhythm for the blog

This blog will be a bit more spontaneous from now on.

I´ll probably keep posting weekly, although I might skip a week sometimes and might publish more often at other times.

I´ll write longer and shorter posts. I´ll try to have less rules, the main one being to keep the blog alive.

This article was originally posted on Tripping Mom by Marilia Di Cesare on March 6, 2012. Republished with authorization. Click here for all other posts.


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